Being single=freedom?

First of all I would like to advise only teen girls to read this. Primarily because I am a teenager as well and so would not want to try giving advice to anyone older than myself, because I know very well that my advice could not possibly suit someome with more experience than me.

But let's get straight to the point, shall we? I have never had a real relationship. For those reading that have had, congradulations. For those reading that are like me, don't worry. And now of course I'll have critics saying: well yes, but you are young and have your whole life ahead of you...what about those that have been searching for their other half for ages? I say who cares? If you really want to find love you can. Being single is neither a curse nor a blessing.

Here's the thing: I used to be the kind of person that liked to preach about how great it was to be single. That being single meant being free, no worries, no burdens just freedom. Then all my friends turned from single girls to being girlfriends. And I found myself wondering why I was the only one left. Why couldn't I have a boyfriend? It sounded so great. Some you could spend time with, have fun with, someone who understood you but at the same time someone you could love in a different way than you could love anyone else.

I thought about it long and hard. What's better? Being single? Or being in a relationship? Here's what I came up with: being single is great when you want to do something that you can do better by yourself. Being with someone is great when you want to do something that is easier to do in two. The truth is that all things can be done either way. It's just that some things are easier to do alone and others are easier to do as a couple.

Being single does not mean being free. Think about it: You could go wherever you want and do whatever you want even though you're in a relationship. However you'll keep thinking about the person that waits for you at home. You could also do the above while being single. You'll have no one on your conscience but then when you get home you'll think about the person you wish you had on your conscience.

Everyone has the right to agree or disagree with this. The point I'm trying to make though, is that being single works when you want it to work. When you don't think about it. When you don't have to wake up every morning and say :''I'm so proud that I'm single!'' What's the point of that? Same thing goes for relationships. If you dont like it, end it. And if you need love, find it. Be open, sweet and uncaring. You'll be surprised at how many people will start to notice you.

Being single is neither a curse nor a blessing. It is a state.